Have a seat.
Allow me to predict your future for you.
You have two options:
BEST CASE SCENARIO: What’s next for you will be AWESOME and lead you to a lot of happiness in your future. Congrats! OR…
WORST CASE SCENARIO: Whatever is next for you will be AWFUL and lead to a lot of struggle in your future. Sorry!
That’s about the extent of my ability as a fortune teller. See, I’m one of those “either/or” types. When I think about life, it tends to be in either/or terms. Black or white. Good or Bad. Thumbs up or Thumbs down.
Anybody else do this?
Well, I know you’re out there. Here’s a great example:
Nowadays, if you watch a video on Youtube, you can give it a “thumbs up” or a “thumbs down”.
Do you know why?
Up until 2009, Youtube videos used to be rated on a 1-5 scale. But time and again, this is what happened:
A few people would give the video a “1” — as in terrible.
A whole bunch of people would give the video a “5” — as in awesome.
And pretty much NOBODY rated a video a 2, 3, or 4.
Those middle-of-the-road numbers were all but useless. In terms of liking or not liking something, this anecdote would at least suggest that people seem to be pretty dual-minded about it.
Now, does this translate into how people approach their own lives? I don’t really know, but it makes sense to me.
I think there are people for whom gray is a very uncomfortable color. Life seems so uncertain these days. With black or white, you know where you stand and you know what your options are.
1’s and 5’s are easy to discern — it’s those subtler shades in the middle that take real work.
I, for one, believe it’s valuable work, even if I’m not particularly good at it yet.
We must face the possibility that, whatever’s next for you and I may be….just okay. Or maybe there will be good parts and difficult parts. Or maybe it will be really hard at the time, but looking back, we’ll be so glad for all we learned. Or…
Whew. Giving up either/or thinking adds so many dimensions to life. But it may allow us to live more fully and more deeply.
Life is more than a best or worst case scenario. In fact, life is so much more than a “scenario” — It’s a rich and unfolding journey, and the more we accept the nuances, the more we can enjoy the ride.
But if it’s hard for you to let go of the lingo, hold tight to this:
Faith makes any next thing in your life…
A Blessed Case Scenario.
Have a Great Week,