“If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. Matthew 18:6
For years, we’ve been offering a semester-long confirmation class for all the 7th and 8th graders on our rolls. We would bring in lots of students whose parents want their kids to get confirmed. We’d meet once a week for several weeks, and talk about the basics, and then finish the class with a retreat and a special service.
And then… they’d disappear. We’d never see many of those kids again. Or their parents! It was as if confirmation class was like driver’s ed, or a get-your-Christianity-card training course. Pick up your certificate and you’re good to go.
What a drag. Another class of (literally) half-baked Christians, let loose on the world.
This week I read a study, found at psypost.org, about young Christians who become atheists. In a survey of over 5,000 atheists, the ones who rejected Christianity earlier in life were the ones who grew up in families who “talked the talk” but didn’t “walk the walk”.
The study uses the term “CREDs” — or “CRedibility Enhancing Displays” to describe a parent’s actions, attitudes, and behaviors that reflect an authentic Christian way of life. So, this study is suggesting that Christian parents who don’t have much CRED (i.e. they don’t act or talk in particularly Christian ways) may actually be pushing their children right out of the faith.
Makes sense, doesn’t it? If the person I am looking most up to is doing very little to emulate this Jesus guy, then one of the primary opportunities to catch a glimpse of the Kingdom of God is never offered.
In other words: There’s a direct connection between weak Christianity and early onset Atheism. That’s a scary notion, isn’t? The idea that some of us pew warmers have actually pushed our kids away because of our own lukewarm faith.
We’ve noticed this negative effect happening not just in parents, but in our church as a whole. Could our church be pushing young people away from…church? What can the church do to increase our CRED?
Here’s a couple things we’ve done related to Confirmation:
Confirmation class for youth is now 2 years long, taught by the Youth Director, the Senior Pastor, and the ADCO chair. The increased time requires greater commitment, but the work is more of an exploration–fueled by the very deep faith questions the youth ask. The goal is to help them become mature Christians.
Parents are encouraged to participate along with mentors, especially on church visits that show our youth the variety of religious experience. Introducing a number of faith options reminds youth they have choice, which can paradoxically help them make a commitment.
Confirmation Class for adults. We’ve offered a special class for adults who may have forgotten, or never learned, about God, Jesus, The Holy Spirit, Sin, Salvation, and on and on. It was amazing to hear them ask the same questions our youth have asked. Yes, some of them drifted away after the class. But others have redoubled their commitment to the faith, and increased their CRED.
Efforts like this are a way for a church to help reduce Early Onset Atheism. Even better is to help every adult (every parent) develop a rock solid faith, and learn to use it. We still struggle to do this well, but small groups, discipleship processes, compelling preaching, and mission opportunities can make it happen.
There’s not a person in the congregation that doesn’t need to confirm their faith on a regular basis. That’s how we remember what we believe, and commit to put it into action. The more we can remember to walk the walk,
the sooner we give sufferers of Early Onset Atheism,
a cure they can believe in.
Have a great week,